Love Is Blind

Song of Solomon 4:7 “Thou art all fair, my love; there is no spot in thee.”

In the late 1500s, Shakespeare coined the phrase “love is blind” which appears in several of his plays including Two Gentlemen of Verona, Henry V and The Merchant Of Venice.  ”Modern-day research supports the view that the blindness of love is not just a figurative matter. A research study in 2004 by University College London found that feelings of love suppressed the activity of the areas of the brain that control critical thought.” (source)

The wonderful thing about love is it covers a multitude of sins (1 Peter 4:8).  Love hopes all things and believes all things (1 Corinthians 13:7).  There is no fear in love (1 John 4:18), because when someone loves us we do not have to be afraid of them.  We do not have to play a game of cover-up and deceitfulness because we know that no matter what we are loved.  Love is not a license to live any way we want; love is a motivation to live like we should.

In the Song of Solomon, the writer is praising the woman he he loves.  He describes how wonderful she is in Song of Solomon 4:1-6 and then concludes with “Thou are all fair, my love; there is no spot in thee.”  I seriously down that there was no spot or blemish in this woman, but I think this man loved her so much that he was blind to those spots.

It reminds me of most couples who are in love before they get married.  They cannot believe that the other person would do any wrong.  They just think that each other “hung the moon”.  They are head over heals in love.  Then they get married!  It may take a week, a year, two years, or more, but one day the penny drops and the question is asked by one or both, “Who is this person?”  ”Now all I can see are faults and spots. This is not the same person I loved before I got married.”

What has happened is the other person has not changed; you have changed.  Your perspective has been altered, and you have the power to get back to where you were, if you will choose to view them through eyes of love.  You will find what you are looking for.  If you only look for spots, you will find many.  If you only look for goodness, you will find much.  The key is to focus on the Lord and be grateful for his blessings, and he will help you see your husband or wife with the blindness of love one again.

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